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Happy New Year
January is named after the Roman god Janus. Janus was believed to be the protector of gates and doorways and symbolizes beginnings and endings. He is depicted with two faces. One of his faces looks into the past, and the other, according to legend, can see into the...
Self-Compassion in dealing with “the holiday blues”
Many people look forward to the holidays beginning with Thanksgiving and ending with the big New Year's Eve celebration. But for many, the holidays bring into focus a feeling that their life is not how they pictured it. It may be their job, bank account, or, often,...
How do you know love will last ?
I've never met anyone who has grown out of childhood without some unresolved conflict or unmet need. For most of us, the pain or unhappiness of the unmet need associated with these conflicts or unmet needs does not preoccupy our conscious thoughts and feelings....
I’ve never met anyone who has grown out of childhood
I’ve never met anyone who has grown out of childhood without some unresolved conflict or unmet need. For most of us, the pain or unhappiness of the unmet need associated with these conflicts or unmet needs does not preoccupy our conscious thoughts and feelings....
Part: 6 Nutrient #5 The Malnourished Marriage: Essential Nutrient #5 Think of Trust as a Marriage’s Vitamins
Trust is the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships.- Stephen Covey
Part 5: The Malnourished Marriage: Essential Nutrient #4 – Think of Compromise and Patience as Healthy Fats
“Be careful not to compromise what you want most for what you want now.” ? Zig Ziglar
PART 4: The Malnourished Marriage: Essential Nutrient #3 – Think of Humor as Carbohydrate
“The gods gave men fire so he put it out with water. They gave him love so he could put it out with marriage.” ? Sam Levison
PART 3: The Malnourished Marriage: Essential Nutrient #2: Sex and Intimacy as Protein
“Men and women approach sex very differently. Men make love to feel loved and women need to feel loved to make love.” ? Sheila Wray Gregoire
PART 2: The Malnourished Marriage: Essential Nutrient #1: Think of Communication as Water
"Water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend." - Bruce Lee What happens when the high levels of dopamine, norepinephrine, and oxytocin that thrust you into love's orbit have burned away like the boosters of a rocket? Unfortunately, just as very little of the...
PART 1: The Malnourished Marriage: 5 Essential Nutrient Emotions for A Healthy Relationship
The whole issue with Brent started a long time before the fight that caused Jenna to come to my office for a divorce consultation. Jenna is a competent, beautiful young mother of three with an MBA from Duke and an enviable position as a financial analyst with a...
When Cupid Sets You Up to Feel Stupid
Imagine you know from the credit card statement that your husband purchased two Valentine's Day cards and something from a jeweler. You smile and anxiously await the day meant to celebrate your love for each other. Valentine's Day arrives, and at breakfast your...
The Family That Fate Gave Us And How It Influences Our Perception of Others
"All happy families are alike, each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way." - Leo Tolstoy, Anna Karenina Throughout the decades of representing clients in divorce, I've had the opportunity to engage psychologists to testify about family dynamics. Specifically, in...